The biggest take away I had from this week’s reading was consciously choosing a particular conflict style based on your own needs in a given situation. I’ve definitely used different styles in the past but the choice was made at a subconscious level or, in the worst cases, so in the heat of the moment that my hind-brain takes over. Despite the reputation of my red hair, I don’t tend to lose my cool like that with any frequency.mI think that being aware of our options as choices is a fundamental step before learning to exercise them through experience.
It is validating to know that there are situations when certain styles like avoiding or being aggressive are appropriate. I think that, like many women, I’ve been socialized to be accommodating and avoid being aggressive. While I’ve ostensibly grown beyond buying in these restrictions, I don’t have a background that gave me insight on making the best choice.
I’d also like to mention how much I appreciated having a clear distinction made between collaborating and compromising. I’ve done a lot more collaborating than I had realized; it was just that sometimes I mislabeled it as compromise. Given the negative associations that compromise frequently has, I didn’t always know if the best solution was reached.
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